Beautiful essay. You always leave your heart on the page. You are certainly adored and supported here on Substack and by the millions on the right side of history. 🙏🏻🥰❤️💐
Really eloquently describe the experience of many of us in the gay community. The Marxist hijacking of the queer space really destroyed that part of the community. Really interestingly everyone who used to identify as gay/lesbian (before the queer label was as popular in the community) are now queer and just straight up antisemites. They cut me out and my wife (just for being my wife) after using DARVO (of course) because I called out their antisemitism. There is such group think and I think you really hit on the trauma piece of it. There’s such a desire to belong that they traded fitting in when you could no longer belong as you are. Every LGBT friend I lost is a queer card carrier and the irony is not lost on me. But my gay friends who didn’t fall into that indoctrination are like family and proud Jews/supporters. Not saying every queer person is an antisemite but it’s palpable in that enclave. I hope this community wakes up and finds its way back to sanity. I hope you find your fam again and ones that aren’t conditional.
You wrote, "They were wonderful people at one point who shared an empathy with me for the world." No they weren't. They were mean, shitty people. You felt like they were wonderful because you shared a space with them in which you believed everybody loved and accepted you. They didn't. They loved and accepted the part of you that agreed with them. But when you held an idea that made you the Other, you were anathema. And however much you feel like they loved you, that love was very very conditional. Sing our song! Praise our God! Or be damned.
I don’t see it that way. I think people who fear deep connection and self-knowing can’t always meet someone who challenges them on both, and that doesn’t have much to do with you. It has to do with their own capacity to love and their relationship with themselves.
It's sad to realize that people who were once your friends look at you like you're from Mars, once they find out you're gay (sometimes) or Zionist (all too often). But it's not that anything about you really changed - it's more like they fell asleep and were replaced by pod people. Today some Israel-hater on X accused me of being a "Zionist apologist." I responded that there seems to be a misconception on her end, because I wasn't apologizing for supporting the Jewish right to self determination in our ancestral lands. Slightly off-topic, but I guess the bottom line is that Jews have nothing for which to apologize, so perhaps our best response should be the sarcastic, "Pardon me for living!"
Thanks, Eve. I am not part of the queer community, but I can see how its impacted others.
On another note, as a librarian, it has been infuriating trying to get any Israeli/Jewish/Zionist literature in the libraries. All I see in libraries and bookstores is Palestine this and that.
Its always in the non-fiction section and I find it really triggering because a lot of them are pure fiction.
I am sorry you have experienced this. I understand completely. xoxox
Beautiful essay. You always leave your heart on the page. You are certainly adored and supported here on Substack and by the millions on the right side of history. 🙏🏻🥰❤️💐
I hope you write a book one day. I know the publishers are insane and give you a hard time but the book you write will be a classic.
Really eloquently describe the experience of many of us in the gay community. The Marxist hijacking of the queer space really destroyed that part of the community. Really interestingly everyone who used to identify as gay/lesbian (before the queer label was as popular in the community) are now queer and just straight up antisemites. They cut me out and my wife (just for being my wife) after using DARVO (of course) because I called out their antisemitism. There is such group think and I think you really hit on the trauma piece of it. There’s such a desire to belong that they traded fitting in when you could no longer belong as you are. Every LGBT friend I lost is a queer card carrier and the irony is not lost on me. But my gay friends who didn’t fall into that indoctrination are like family and proud Jews/supporters. Not saying every queer person is an antisemite but it’s palpable in that enclave. I hope this community wakes up and finds its way back to sanity. I hope you find your fam again and ones that aren’t conditional.
I had a very similar experience, also including DARVO
Beautiful article and the essay is brilliant. Kudos.
I so admire your strength and courage. May Hashem continue to watch over you and those you hold close to your heart. We will continue to survive.
You wrote, "They were wonderful people at one point who shared an empathy with me for the world." No they weren't. They were mean, shitty people. You felt like they were wonderful because you shared a space with them in which you believed everybody loved and accepted you. They didn't. They loved and accepted the part of you that agreed with them. But when you held an idea that made you the Other, you were anathema. And however much you feel like they loved you, that love was very very conditional. Sing our song! Praise our God! Or be damned.
I don’t see it that way. I think people who fear deep connection and self-knowing can’t always meet someone who challenges them on both, and that doesn’t have much to do with you. It has to do with their own capacity to love and their relationship with themselves.
This is not my space, but I admire the integrity and magnanimity with which you fill it.
It's sad to realize that people who were once your friends look at you like you're from Mars, once they find out you're gay (sometimes) or Zionist (all too often). But it's not that anything about you really changed - it's more like they fell asleep and were replaced by pod people. Today some Israel-hater on X accused me of being a "Zionist apologist." I responded that there seems to be a misconception on her end, because I wasn't apologizing for supporting the Jewish right to self determination in our ancestral lands. Slightly off-topic, but I guess the bottom line is that Jews have nothing for which to apologize, so perhaps our best response should be the sarcastic, "Pardon me for living!"
That was a long piece - I think i aged a bit. BUT, I enjoyed it :)
Thanks, Eve. I am not part of the queer community, but I can see how its impacted others.
On another note, as a librarian, it has been infuriating trying to get any Israeli/Jewish/Zionist literature in the libraries. All I see in libraries and bookstores is Palestine this and that.
Its always in the non-fiction section and I find it really triggering because a lot of them are pure fiction.
I am sorry you have experienced this. I understand completely. xoxox
Yes, please do. I love to hear your voice. Beautiful.